tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post715844945188976903..comments2023-07-05T02:15:26.621-07:00Comments on The Two Body Problem: Unwritten rules- guests and studentsPUI profhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12478071402571477766noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post-85574185788126825392011-03-13T23:56:43.890-07:002011-03-13T23:56:43.890-07:00Don't be so hard on yourself. Venting is what...Don't be so hard on yourself. Venting is what blog posts are for! Sounds like a frustrating and tiring weekend, which is extra hard when weekends are so valuable - especially with a commuter marriage. Hope your cold isn't too bad and that you were able to recover and have some fun this weekend!SamanthaScientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07523530309971427206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post-39934721278321477902011-03-07T19:30:20.491-08:002011-03-07T19:30:20.491-08:00Anon 6:28. It does sounds harsh, doesn't it? Y...Anon 6:28. It does sounds harsh, doesn't it? Yikes. Hub said it was a good weekend. I wonder what my big beef is. See, until I figure out what's wrong with ME, I shouldn't let them go, cause that's not fair to them.PUI profhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12478071402571477766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post-46333172395185259082011-03-07T18:28:57.613-08:002011-03-07T18:28:57.613-08:00Second, as your guest I believe they're off th...<i>Second, as your guest I believe they're off the hook on helping around the house, including in the kitchen. I always feel in the way in someone else's kitchen and hate other people being in my kitchen.</i><br /><br />I second this sentiment. I don't tolerate anyone in my kitchen (not even my husband). I also don't expect house guests to help; it's a mini vacation for them, so I am happy to indulge them. I guess this goes with my understanding of being the hostess -- it is inconvenient. It's only very very very close friends with whom I am OK if they help around. Otherwise -- sit back and relax and don't butt in. <br /><br />Regarding your house guests, you do sound a bit harsh. It really sounds like you didn't want them at your house in the least. Actually, you do sound like you don't like them at all (you refer to them as "simple", etc.) I wonder if they are uncomfortable when they visit, they must have picked up on the vibes. Unless one of them gave you a kidney or you owe them money or something similar, forget the guilt, just cut them loose...<br /><br />Regarding students in one's class (especially undergrads): unless the teacher explicitly tells you to call them by their first name, never assume it is OK. Prof. Lastname or Dr. Lastname is universally acceptable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post-68044853811246865202011-03-07T17:34:04.623-08:002011-03-07T17:34:04.623-08:00Anon 5:25,
why friends? It's complicated... h...Anon 5:25, <br />why friends? It's complicated... have you ever been friends with someone with whom you do one thing very well (your biking buddy, scrapbook friends)? In addition, though not great guests, they are loyal and true pen-pals etc. There's a lot of guilt involved in this friendship (a bit lopsided) and I have continual angst about it. <br /><br />Kitchen? yeah, I can really see your point, thanks.PUI profhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12478071402571477766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3668460283955922895.post-3656332278273023892011-03-07T17:25:16.636-08:002011-03-07T17:25:16.636-08:00First, why are these people your friends? They don...First, why are these people your friends? They don't sound like people you want to be friends with.<br /><br />Second, as your guest I believe they're off the hook on helping around the house, including in the kitchen. I always feel in the way in someone else's kitchen and hate other people being in my kitchen. And if they're taking care of the kids then that's a good way of being helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com